12 helpful tips to overcome negativity and grief to fulfill your goals faster

Negative thoughts can just start with just a thought or a feeling. It starts sometimes with just an insult or deception even a statement by someone else which will later poison your emotions or drag you down. Thinking about what others say about you will delay you. It will seduce you into thinking you can’t succeed. It can even make you feel like saying bad things about yourself. That will solve no problem.

It can hinder you from feeling sorry for yourself, worried, or thinking.

The negativity that swells up inside of you or in the world around you can quickly become toxic and hold you back from living the life you want. The best thing is to accept yourself and let bad things go. Maintaining these tips will push you into a more happier and successful life.

So here are the 12 most valuable tips to overcome negativity and grief to fulfill your goals faster:

Control your thoughts

This is when you put your mind into a motion of obedience. Most people’s minds are full of thoughts that made it difficult for them to obey. So here are mind few mind control exercises to put your mind under control:

  1. Let’s say on your way back from school or any studies when walking try to remember every single thing you’ve listened to. You will see that your mind is lazy and refuse to listen. Force it and start like that if you continue doing that you will make it out to control your mind faster.
  2. Write something in your mind. You can be working in your mind too. I usually solve some mathematics in my mind when I was in college. I learn that when I was curious and want to know the best way to make use of my mind. So this one is another exercise. Not only mathematics you can also do something or meditate on positive health or thoughts.

Trade them out for positive thoughts

Whenever any negative thought gets into your mind, the wisest way to overcome it is to replace it with positive thoughts. This skill is difficult when getting started bit you will definitely improve on the way.

Negative thoughts will always fall into the mind every time, depending on society and the types of people around you. So the best way to overcome it is to replace it with more better or productive thoughts. When negative thoughts get into your mind, try to remember something that makes you happy. You can even start thinking about your last lovely vacation that was fun.

People don’t care that much about what you say or do

If you’ve never passed through any things like tough times you can never understand. They will leave you and of course, you can bear with me that there are some of your situations that you can’t explain. Well, you can tell them the most important ones but there are some specific problems that only you can understand and can control.

Let me share this story with you that changed my life forever:

I once got a girlfriend when I was in primary school. We were dating for more than 7 years before we separated from each other. Well, I am always first in school and exams most people usually say that I am very intelligent but I don’t think so because I have a curious and honest nature. We dated up till college when she got a new boyfriend. She usually texts me and answers my messages faster but it got to one certain time when she doesn’t reply to my messages, pick the phone calls she even doesn’t want to see me. I was begging her thinking I did something wrong. I begged and begged she refused to tell me the problems. So one Saturday I was going out for some fun and workouts. I usually juggling from the street to the public place where I sometimes read or perform somebody’s exercises. I saw her with another guy having a deep kiss that morning. I couldn’t explain what happen next. But I kept quiet till I wrote her that she’s cheating on me. And she answered: and so. I just told her that she will pay for it and went. That night I took my time to delete all her pictures on my phone and destroy all her photos in my room. I am not a judge I left the rest for God. She’s such a beautiful girl but I loved her because I was broke. She got carried by the big cars, money, and luxuries. She has forgotten me so suddenly. People care about advantages not about what you say or how loyal you are. But I have done my best for her. A few years later that guy broke up with her and I saw her crying. I approached her told her sorry by comfort her.

The question is how did I get over those bad thoughts?

Trust is the key. Trust is more powerful than love. If you got disappointed by someone you trust, it will be difficult for you to live this life. It was very tough for me in the first three months. I couldn’t sleep the night. So one day I ask myself how do I get over this girl and started working on myself. I sit down in a silent place and meditating on ignoring her which made me a little bit comfortable. I didn’t tell anyone because no one can understand. That’s what I feel. The best and final way I got over those bad thoughts about her was over time. I gave myself chance to date others girls and go out. Have fun and play. Whenever her thoughts get into my mind I usually ignore them and replace them with other thoughts. It came ok over time. It took time for me to get over her even when I work hard on myself. Don’t think about what is gone. There are bigger chances out there. It will take time to digest the pains and thoughts to get them off your anus.
1. When you’re in what seems like a negative situation, find what’s good.

Stop making mountains out of molehills

When you know now that no one cares, please be careful with trust. Now the best thing and ask yourself if what you look sick worried about will make you proud in the next 5 YEARS or more. The best time to choose success and progress is now. After thinking about the value of what your mind is producing your brains will tell you if you should continue thinking about it or leave it. Instead of stressing yourself over something useless why not focus on the most important goals.

Bring positivity into someone else’s life

Go out have fun and laugh out everything. If you are funny or weirded like me then this is a good job. Now you just go to your friends crack jokes laugh and laugh. Laugh out sharing funny ideas with others. By making others laugh they will likely be happy and share whatever lovely things they wish to say to you. If you have a wife or girlfriend please share your positivity with them first especially if they show a lot of respectful signs.

If anyone really loves you, they will appreciate the times you spend together and will pay back with something more expensive like trust. They will because of how they enjoy you, be willing to support you in any situation. So give out anything you wish to get.

By adding positivity to his or her life in some way you too can start to feel better and more optimistic again.

Here are few ways to add positivity into someone’s else’s life:

Being kind: Give out genuine compliments, hold up the door or let him into your lane while driving your car, share a cup of coffee, give out when others need

Help out; Give out some good advice that has helped you or help out with moving houses or planning and preparing for the party next weekend.

Just be there: Listen for a few minutes in a focused way as he vents. Or talk his difficult situation over to help him to start finding his way out of it.

Let it out and talk it over

It could have been better for me if I shared my problems with someone close to advise me. Sharing your ideas with someone close improves comfort. Keeping pessimistic feelings that are coming to cloud your whole mind bottled up won’t help.

So let them out. Talk the condition or your thoughts over with someone close to you.

Just expressing for a few minutes can often help you to see the situation in a new light. It can also help you find a way out faster.

Or if not then a discussion about it where the two of you discover a more useful perspective and maybe the start of an action plan can be both relieving and recharging.

Go for a short workout

Workouts are positive ideas to help improve stress. It also helps the body in having good digestion.

I discover that when I’m having a problem with thinking myself out of negativity then it often works well to change my headspace by using my body.

So I go for a 30-minute workout and lift some free weights. J forget about all my bad thoughts while focusing on good exercises.

This helps me to release inner tension and worries. And it makes my mind focused and constructive once again.

Replace the negativity in your surroundings

I stated that I deleted all her pictures and videos on my phone. That’s all. You see what you always think about or see around will always have some effect on your day-by-day feelings.

The question is what can you do to spend less time with these negatives vibes?

If you can’t find ways to do that right now for all, then take a smaller step and focus on doing that with just one of these sources.

Then spend the time you’ve freed up this week on more positive sources and people that are already in your life or that you want to explore and perhaps make a new part of it.

Live in and come back to this moment

Living in the present might be hard for a beginner. When you’re hitting into negative thinking then you’re frequently thinking about something that has happened, may happen, or even both. They all jumbled up as your mood and thoughts sink.

To kick that off, put your attention fully into this moment instead. Into what’s here right now. Be aware of the present instead of putting yourself far away from reality.

Make effort to start making it a habit to spend more of your time in the present moment. This will help you exclude most of your negative thoughts automatically and progressively. In my experience, you will naturally encounter some difficulty in the beginning. Because you will always be there for yourself to exclude those bad thoughts and replace them.

Start making it a habit to spend more of your time in the present moment and you’ll, in my experience, naturally have fewer negative thoughts and be more open and constructive.

A couple of ways to bring yourself back to being mindful and this moment are:

Focus only on your breathing

Take a 1-2 minute pause right now and take a little deeper breaths than you usually do. Make sure you’re breathing with your stomach and through your nose.

During this time focus only on the air going in and out and nothing else.

Take in the world around you.

Take a 1-2 minute break, get out of your head, and put your attention on what’s around you right now. Nothing else.

Just focus on the people walking by outside your window, the muffled words and noises from the street, the smells around you, and the sun shining in and warming your skin.

Start tomorrow in a way that sets a positive tone for your day

Living in the present might be hard for a beginner. When you’re hitting into negative thinking then you’re frequently thinking about something that has happened, may happen, or even both. They all jumbled up as your mood and thoughts sink.

To kick that off, put your attention fully into this moment instead. Into what’s here right now. Be aware of the present instead of putting yourself far away from reality.

Make effort to start making it a habit to spend more of your time in the present moment. This will help you exclude most of your negative thoughts automatically and progressively. In my experience, you will naturally encounter some difficulty in the beginning. Because you will always be there for yourself to exclude those bad thoughts and replace them.

Start making it a habit to spend more of your time in the present moment and you’ll, in my experience, naturally have fewer negative thoughts and be more open and constructive.

A couple of ways to bring yourself back to being mindful and this moment are:

Focus only on your breathing

Take a 1-2 minute pause right now and take a little deeper breaths than you usually do. Make sure you’re breathing with your stomach and through your nose.

During this time focus only on the air going in and out and nothing else.

Take in the world around you.

Take a 1-2 minute break, get out of your head, and put your attention on what’s around you right now. Nothing else.

Just focus on the people walking by outside your window, the muffled words and noises from the street, the smells around you, and the sun shining in and warming your skin.

Don’t let the vague fears drag you down

I have made this mistake many times. The fear of failure, shame, or loss just seems to be something so disappointing. We can’t force life to be favorable but we can take responsibility for all of our actions.

It’s of course normal to feel that impulse and want to prevent it but when fears are vague, they can become so much scarier than they need to. These fears can make you take action too fast which you might regret later. That is why you must control your feelings and emotions.

The best way to overcome those fears is to develop courage and this act of discomfort. Develop this ability to feel pains. Know that the comfort zone will never make you a better person. Know that what has already occurred has occurred.

So what can you do? These questions will help you?

What’s the worst that could happen in this situation?

When you start to ground a fear like that and begin to look at it with your feet firmly planted on the ground then you most often realize that the worst that could happen isn’t that bad.

It’s often something you can make a plan to come back from it were to happen.

And you can also probably start listing and taking action on a few things that will reduce the likelihood of this worst-case scenario happening.

By doing this you gain clarity about the situation and what you can do about it and so the fear does tend to become quite a bit smaller.

Question the thought

This is just a self-transformation tool. You will have to provide a survey for yourself that will lead to a final decision.

Question your thoughts!! Take a personal survey to know what is worth thinking about and what doesn’t.

Ask your girlfriend in your mind: should I take you seriously?

If yes, your brain will tell you with the proof, and if no you will know too.

Because at that moment in time I’m tired. Or hungry. Or overworked and so negativity can try to overwhelm my mind.

Sometimes, being too focused on one small mistake or one bad day. Instead of focusing on the other 95% of life that tends to be positive could waste your time.

However, this question helps me to see that just because I did one small thing wrong doesn’t mean that I did poorly overall.

Or that this one negative thing doesn’t mean that things will get worse and stay like that for a long time. Not if I chose optimism and to take small steps forward.

Basically, this question gives me a reality check and grounds me to a level-headed perspective. Now what to do is to get back into yourself and ask tough questions about your feelings if what hinders you is worth it.

How do you overcome your bad thoughts let us know in the comments?

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