You wake up every day with thoughts that you don’t want. You think about everything even about what you never wish to think about. The question is to know how to control your thoughts and stop stressing yourself.
What is holding people back from the life that they truly want to live?
Do not overanalyze and deconstruct things or else the happiness that comes from just enjoying something at the moment will disappear.
Now, thinking things through can be a wonderful thing of course.
However, getting lost in a sort of overthinking infection can transform your life to becoming someone who stands still in life. Stopping overthinking will help you gain better stability in life. So try to become someone who self-sabotages all good things that happen in life. This means that you just sit down somewhere and think about five to ten things that make you are grateful. The best thing I do to stop overthinking is to listen to music or go out with my wife and children. I look at them and say: I am fine, blessed, I have love, I have a house… Repeating positive thoughts every day can bring peace into the mind and stop overthinking.
One of my colleagues in the workplace discussed with me about overthinking and I told him to replace all bad thoughts with good and Thanksgiving thoughts. And after doing it, and meditating on good thoughts he came back to me and say: “I am peaceful ” it was very difficult for him in three days but he forced his mind to be under control.
So In this writing, I would share 12 habits that have helped people I presently witness to stop overthinking and maintain a peaceful mind:
Life is all about courage. We all have problems to solve and as we all know the more the success the more the problem. It takes courage to keep going. I might never know the problems that put you into overthinking but the biggest way to survive is to give yourself a chance. Overthinking will mislead and misinterpret both positive and negative thoughts. The keynote here is that overthinking doesn’t solve any problem it just worsens them.
Courage is what keeps you going. The world is full of mess and unhappiness so it is important to have the courage for better days.
Let’s take some tough problems like for example;
You can’t solve most of these problems as easily and faster as you think… All you need is the courage to fight and overcome them as time goes on. As a matter of fact, you need the courage to work hard on your goals even when it’s not giving you any encouragement or pride.
You can start maintaining things in the right order because It’s very easy to fall into this trap of overthinking minor things in life. And you will always fall into that type of situation. The best thing is to know the value of what you are thinking. So when overthinking about the breakups and setbacks ask yourself:
Will this matter in 2 years? Or even in 5 years?
Let your mind expand these perspectives by using this simple question that can quickly snap you out of overthinking and help to let go of that problem.
It enables you to eventually stop thinking about useless things to focus your time and energy on something else that does matter to you.
It is important to Stop setting your day up for stress and overthinking it can cause you another sickness.
You can’t totally avoid overwhelming or stressful days but you can minimize the number of effects by getting a fortunate start to your day and focusing on positive thoughts. How you begin your day tends to always set the tone for your day. The best way to start your day is with songs of thanksgiving. Be happy for waking up healthy.
Be aware that A stressed morning leads to a stressed day. Absorbing negative information as you ride to your job tends to lead to more pessimistic thoughts during the rest of your day.
While for example reading something uplifting over breakfast, getting some exercise, and then get started with your most important task right now sets a good tone for the day and will help you to stay positive.
If you do not have a time limit for when you must make a decision and take action then you can just keep turning your thoughts around and around and view them from all angles in your mind for a very long time.
So learn to become better at making decisions and to spring into action by setting deadlines in your daily life. No matter if it’s a small or bigger decision.
Here’s what has worked for me:
For small decisions like if should go and do the dishes, respond to an email, or work out I usually give myself 30 seconds or less to make a decision.
For somewhat larger decisions that would have taken me days or weeks to think through in the past, I use a deadline of 30 minutes or for the end of the workday.
Taking regular breaks could be a good idea because it will help you calm your mind. It will also help you to keep a sharp focus during your day and to get what’s most important done while also allowing you to rest and recharge so you don’t start to run on fumes.
And this somewhat relaxed mindset but with a narrow focus will help you to think clearly and decisively and avoid winding up in a stressed and overthinking headspace. So taking some reasonable breaks will help you recharge and reboot your mind.
In other words, be busy. Instead of thinking, do something you love and enjoy. Try to handle your tasks instead of overthinking. Handling tasks or doing some work will evade you from some thoughts. And if your tasks are well handled, you’ll end up with happiness every day. When you know how to get started with taking action consistently each day then you’ll procrastinate less by overthinking.
Setting deadlines and a good tone for the day are two things that have helped me to become much more of a person of action.
Taking small steps forward and only focusing on getting one small step done at a time is another habit that has worked really well.
It works so well because you do not feel overwhelmed and so you do not want to flee into procrastination or lazy inaction.
And even though you may be afraid, taking just a step is such a small thing that you do not get paralyzed in fear.
The key idea is don’t kill yourself. Too much information, too many times of just taking a few minutes to check your inbox, Facebook, or Twitter account, or how your blog or website is doing leads to more input and clutter in your mind as your day progresses.
And so it becomes harder to think simply and clearly and easier to lapse back into that familiar overthinking habit.
if you know you can’t control everything, then forget what you can’t control. Trying to think things through too much can be a way to try to control everything which can bring other harmful effects. To cover every eventuality so you don’t risk making a mistake, fail or looking like a fool.
But those things are a part of living a life where you truly stretch your comfort zone. Everyone who you may admire and have lived a life that inspires you has failed. They have made mistakes.
But in most cases, they’ve also seen these things as valuable feedback to learn from.
Those things that may look negative have taught them a lot and have been invaluable to help them to grow.
So stop trying to control everything. Trying to do so simply doesn’t work because no one can see all possible scenarios in advance.
This is of course easier said than done. So do it in small steps if you like.
We all have these problems of fears and insecurities but the question is can overthink solve them? I’ve fallen into many times that have spurred on overthinking is that I’ve gotten lost in vague fears about a situation in my life.
And so my mind running wild has created disaster scenarios about what could happen if I do something.
So I’ve learned to ask myself: honestly, what is the worst that could happen?
And when I’ve figured out what the worst that could happen actually is then I can also spend a little time to think about what I can do if that often pretty unlikely thing happens.
I’ve found that the worst that could realistically happen is usually something that is not as scary as what my mind running wild with vague fear could produce.
Finding clarity in this way usually only takes a few minutes and a bit of energy and it can save you a lot of time and suffering.
Say stop in a situation where you know you cannot think straight
Sometimes when I’m hungry or when I’m lying in bed and are about to go to sleep negative thoughts start buzzing around in my mind.
In the past, they could do quite a bit of damage. Nowadays I’ve become good at catching them quickly and saying to myself:
No, no, we are not going to think about this now.
I know that when I’m hungry or sleepy then my mind sometimes tends to be vulnerable to not thinking clearly and to negativity.
So I follow up my “no, no…” phrase and I say to myself that I will think this situation or issue through when I know that my mind will work much better.
For example, after I’ve eaten something or in the morning after I have gotten my hours of sleep.
It took a bit of practice to get this to work but I’ve gotten pretty good at postponing thinking in this way. And I know from experience that when I revisit a situation with some level-headed thinking then in 80% of the cases the issue is very small to nonexistent.
And if there is a real issue then my mind is prepared to deal with it in a much better and more constructive way.
This might sound a bit odd but will help you and your health.
But working out can help with letting go of inner tensions and worries.
It most often makes me feel more decisive and when I was more of an overthinker than it was often my go-to method of changing the headspace I was in to a more constructive one.
Deciding to spend more of your time in the present moment will help you stop overthinking. By being in the present moment in your everyday life rather than in the past or a possible future in your mind you can replace more and more of the time you usually spend on overthinking things with just being here right now instead.
Three ways that I often use to reconnect with the present moment are:
Slow down how you do whatever you are doing right now. Move slower, talk slower or ride your bicycle more slowly for example.
By doing so you become more aware of how you use your body and what is happening all around you right now.
I often tell myself this: Now I am X. And X could be brushing my teeth. Taking a walk in the woods. Or doing the dishes.
This simple reminder helps my mind to stop wandering and brings my focus back to what is happening at this moment.
If you feel you are getting lost in overthinking then disrupt that thought by – in your mind – shouting this to yourself: STOP!
Then reconnect with the present moment by taking just 1-2 minutes to focus fully on what is going on around you. Take it all in with all your senses. Feel it, hear it, smell it, see it and sense it on your skin.
If you have free time, sleep well. I think this is one of the most commonly neglected factors when it comes to keeping a positive mindset and not get lost in negative thought habits.
Because when you haven’t slept enough then you become more vulnerable.
Vulnerable to worrying and pessimism. To not thinking as clearly as you usually do. And to get lost in thoughts going around and around in your mind as you overthink.
So let me share a couple of my favorite tips that help me to sleep better:
Keep it cool.
It can feel nice at first to get into a warm bedroom. But I’ve found that I sleep better and more calmly with fewer scary or negative dreams if I keep the bedroom cool.
If you, like me, are easily awoken by noises then a pair of simple earplugs can be a life-saver.
These inexpensive items have helped me to get a good night’s sleep and sleep through snorers, noisy cats, and other disturbances more times than I can remember.
If you don’t feel sleepy then don’t get into bed and try to force yourself to go to sleep.
That, at least in my experience, only leads to tossing and turning in my bed for an hour or more.
A better solution in these situations is to wind down for an extra 20-30 minutes on the couch with, for example, some reading. This helps me to go to sleep faster and, in the end, get more sleep.
Being aware of your challenge is important to break the habit of overthinking.
But if you’re thinking that you’ll just remember to stop overthinking during your normal day then you’re likely just fooling yourself.
At least if you’re anything like me.
Because I needed help. It wasn’t hard to get it though. I just created a few reminders.
My main one was a note on the whiteboard I had on one of my walls at the time. It said, “Keep things extremely simple”.
Seeing this many times during my day helped me to snap out of overthinking faster and to overtime greatly minimize this negative habit.
Two other kinds of reminders that you can use are:
A small written note.
Simply use a post-it note or something similar and write down my whiteboard phrase, a question like “Am I overcomplicating this?” or some other reminder that appeals to you.
Put that note where you cannot avoid seeing it like for example on your bedside table, your bathroom mirror, or beside your computer screen.
A reminder on your smartphone.
Write down one of the phrases above or one of your own choosing in a reminder app on your smartphone.
I for example use my Android phone and the free app called Google Keep to do this.
Spend more of your time with people who do not overthink things. Go to the people and groups close to you in real life and turn your overthinking away. But also what you read, listen to, and watch. The blogs, books, forums, movies, podcasts, s and music in your life. So think about if there are any sources in your life, close by or further away that encourages and tend to create more overthinking in your mind. And find out topics that have the opposite effect on them.
Find ways to spend more of your time and attention with the people and input that have a positive effect on your thinking and less on the influences that tend to strengthen your overthinking habit.
The best way to stop overthinking is to live in the present and let the past go. Either you are thinking about the relationship, breakups, or financial difficulties, we all know that overthinking can’t solve them that’s why we have to take our time to enjoy the grace we’re given to live. You can’t off the mind, but you can put positive thoughts that can revive you by just living in the present and saying good things about yourself.
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